“Most people never give themselves the permission to live their dreams, they instead give themselves the permission to make excuses not to live their dreams.”- Veli Ndaba – ‘The Engineered Mind – to WIN’
Most people are always claiming that the reason they are suffering or not happy is because of what they don’t have. I have however found that in most cases, that’s not the case or truth. The glaring truth is this: in order to have what you want, you firstly have to become who you need to be – in other words to deserve it – this is a deliberate process not a wishful thinking.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What do I want to have or what results do I want to produce?
- Who do I have to be in order to achieve or produce and maintain the results I want? You see, getting something is one thing but keeping it is another.
- A word of caution: if you happen to get something that you are not ready for, it can destroy your life and end up worse off than before. The examples that come to mind to support this are: lottery winnings, inheritance money, promotion at work that you are not ready for and overnight success. This is a stern warning that you have to be very careful of what you wish for, including some relationships with certain people, as it may be your very downfall. Most people are not where they are supposed to be because they got what they wished for (house, romantic relationship, money, position, profession, etc.) but were not ready for it and it either destroyed them or set them back. Certain things we want are actually the very things we don’t need, watch out!
Let this be a call for you to start working on yourself in preparation of whatever you want in your life. This is a deliberate process not just a wishful thinking. So, for you to have, you firstly need to be ready for that which you want. Suffering mostly results from having something you don’t need, there are many things we are keeping and yet they are the very things that are blocking our progress. Take stock of your life today and start developing yourself and you’ll see your dreams coming to pass. You are too special to settle for mediocrity!
Veli Ndaba is a leadership and Insightful Speaker, Life-Coach and Neuro- Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Author of three books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON!), Newspaper Columnist and Entrepreneur. To book him to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on email@example.com, www.velindaba.com and 083 304 9773