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 Finding Yourself

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” Mark Twain

According to Friedrich Nietzsche, finding yourself is one of the most fundamental endeavours of your life and here’s a tip inspired by him which you can take from to help you get closer to finding yourself and becoming who you truly want to become.

Don’t follow the herd mentality.

“What we’ve called universal values, what we’ve called truth, has always only been the personal expressions of those who promoted them.” Nietzsche believed a rigid societal code creates what he called the “herd mentality.” Like a herd of animals, a herd mentality aims towards sameness, comfort and the preservation of its population. The herd consists of people that have amputated their creativity, dreams and goals and are feeling insecure and even threatened by everyone that exhibits those qualities. Those people are afraid of change, afraid of admitting to themselves that some of their potential has not been fully realised. Although that realisation is scary, an individualistic and driven person must not let themselves be dragged down by other people’s mistakes in life. Instead, you need to go your own way, leave the herd behind and then shine a light so bright that it can’t be ignored. You can start by questioning and silencing those negative voices that you internalised when you were young. Whether it’s a parent, a harsh teacher, a narcissistic partner, it doesn’t matter…Whoever told you that you can’t do things that you would want to, probably told you that because they were afraid of your success, because it would expose everything that is bad about them, so they wanted to limit your individuality and pull you back into the herd. So, give yourself a gift of life by finding yourself. #vnnle

Veli Ndaba is a NeuroEngineering Leadership Effect Speaker and Trainer, Brain Coach and Author of four books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON! And Set Your Soul On Fire!) and Newspaper Columnist. To book him to speak at your next event or to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on, or +27 83 304 9773