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How Healthy Is Your Relationship With Yourself?

I had to look within to determine who I was and what I wanted. Were I not eager to get to know myself well, I would not have made the career change that allowed for so much possibility and happiness in my life.” John Duffy

If you are searching for that person that will change your life, that person is you. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. I’m often asked about why and how I changed from my engineering career to a speaking and training career. I must admit, engineering taught me and instilled in me to always work from first principles and understand the innermost workings of things. I believe this set me on a path for success. My huge appreciation about this engineering field is that it didn’t just teach me ‘the what – to memorize the so-called facts’ but it instead taught me ‘the how – to question and understand from first principles’ to think. I didn’t just teach me to use the available equations but to derive them to foster my understanding of them.

Now to quickly answer the ‘Why’ I changed careers what based on self-discovery. I connected with what truly drove me. That discovery came as a result of my eagerness to know more about myself. So, this discovery didn’t just happen, but it happened just because of my eagerness. To directly use Dr Duffy’s words, “Were I not eager to get to know myself well, I would not have made the career change that allowed for so much possibility and happiness in my life.”

Today I transform Ordinary Teams to NeuroTeams; Ordinary Leaders to NeuroLeaders by using the NeuroTool called the ‘Veli Ndaba NeuroEngineering Leadership Effect” #VNNLE which uses the fundamental principles of Neuroscience and Engineering Principles to Leadership and Leadership Cultures.  I move Leadership from a place of Mental Darkness to Mental Light. This wouldn’t have happened had I not connected with who I truly am!

The main reason many people are in trouble with the world is because they are in trouble with themselves. They’ve not connected with who they really are. They’re complete strangers with their true selves hence they don’t have a good and healthy relationship with themselves. I came across this beautifully crafted article and I immediately thought of you, it should help you develop and improve a healthy relationship with yourself that will put you down on a path of success like me. Find the link below and let me know what you think of it.

Veli Ndaba is a NeuroEngineering Leadership Effect Speaker and Trainer, Brain Coach and Author of four books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON! And Set Your Soul On Fire!) and Newspaper Columnist. To book him to speak at your next event or to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on, or +27 83 304 9773