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How To Build Self-Confidence!

How To Build Self-Confidence!

 “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the light is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed if there’s light from within.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities and judgement. It is being secure in yourself and your abilities. One’s self-confidence increases from experiences of having mastered particular activities. It is a positive belief that in the future one can generally accomplish what one wishes to do. This is your power that lies deep within you and only you can develop it.

 Don’t easily be satisfied with stories of how things have gone with others. Yours is to unfold your own myth. If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price. Self-confidence is about trusting yourself. It is about making the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

 So, from above, you can see that self-confidence is about trust, mastery, experiences, activities and judgement and therefore can be developed. Confidence is a product of  mastering an activity. Mastering an activity is a product of a habit (A habit is a redundant set of automatic unconscious thoughts, behaviours and emotions acquired through repetition). So, this habit is about repeating foundational, boring and mundane things over and over and over, day-in and day-out for a long time.

 As long as you see greatness or success as an event or an overnight thing, not a process, you can kiss it good-bye! Greatness is not an automatic thing that just happens, it’s a product of continually doing the boring, foundational stuff, day-in and day-out over and over and over again which leads to high levels of competence called mastery.  

 The moment you start seeing your worth, you will find it much harder to stay around people who don’t. What you have done and achieved thus far is only a tip of the iceberg to what you are capable of achieving, claim it!

Veli Ndaba is a leadership and Insightful Speaker, Life-Coach and Neuro- Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Author of three books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON!), Newspaper Columnist and Entrepreneur. To book him to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on, and 083 304 9773