“The Winner believes that he creates his own destiny while the Loser believes that life happens to him.” – Veli Ndaba
When you have a victim mentality you become blind to see the blessings in your life. Let today be the day that you break free from this poisonous victim mentality that is stealing your gifts and talents. Victims have the moral high ground meaning that they are right and innocent all the time…someone else is causing the misery in their lives. Victims can easily justify why they are right and not achieving greatness. Victims allow themselves to be stuck in the status quo and they excel at seeing the faults in others, ignoring their own responsibility.
One of the most painful things in life is staying stuck in a situation where you clearly know you don’t belong hence whining all the time. Challenges will always be part of our lives, they help us grow and become stronger and wiser, they are not there to kill us and that’s the way it. Those people that you admire as stronger and courageous are just like you, but the difference is that they take full responsibility for their lives and are willing to pay the price for what they want.
How do you spot or see a person with victim-mentality?
- They always complain about everything and everyone. It’s never about them.
- They always blame everything and everyone on earth for their shortcomings and results.
- They are always justifying when they don’t have what they should have. You will hear them say, “Money is not that important; Education is not important; a nice car/house/outfit or a holiday is just a waste of money and the list goes on and on.”
- They are always criticizing and finding faults with everything.
As you can see, these four things I have mentioned above are stressing, exhausting and time wasting. When you are involved in any of them, you have given away your own power and time.
My friend, you are so special and unique. You have gifts and talents far beyond your imagination and you deserve the best that life has to offer, the sooner you let this sink in your mind, you will let go of this victim mentality and let THE REST OF YOUR LIFE BE THE BEST OF YOUR LIFE!
Veli Ndaba is a Professional and Motivational Speaker, Life-Coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Author of two books (You Are Born to Win and Your Dream is Calling You), Newspaper Columnist and Entrepreneur. To book him to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on firstname.lastname@example.org , www.velindaba.co.za and 083 304 9773