“Confidence is not “They will like me.” Confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t.” – Christina Grimme
Just because my path is different doesn’t mean I’m lost. Just because I like different things doesn’t mean something is wrong with me. When you step into the fire of self-discovery, guess what, it doesn’t burn you but what you are not. This is the kind of thinking that I have adopted. Never ignore something that inspires you because that is the guide to self-discovery.
The journey to self-discovery brings confidence. It makes you open-minded and try new and different things. Some people say, “But I don’t know my strengths and passions!” Well, the two main reasons you feel this way are:
- You haven’t tried enough things – a sign that you are stuck in a comfort zone – go out there and ‘play’;
- You don’t self-reflect. Take time to get out of yourself and watch yourself in action. Notice what you are drawn to – what inspires you. This you may find while watching lovers strolling in the park; kids playing; music playing in the playground, etc. Inspiration is everywhere.
The journey to self-discovery means that you have to get out of your way. I’ve been very fortunate to meet people with lots of money, shiny toys, huge houses and high levels of education but still not happy, so, it’s not about things. Some people get trapped in the perpetual state of accumulating things that later bring them misery. It’s very important to own things but be careful that they don’t own you.
People and situations will come into your life to teach you something. Once that lesson has been taught, they immediately leave. The question you are left with though is, what exactly was this person and/or situation supposed to teach me? Until this lesson is learned, you will miss out on the opportunity to self-discovery.
Veli Ndaba is a leadership and Insightful Speaker, Life-Coach and Neuro- Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Author of three books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON!), Newspaper Columnist and Entrepreneur. To book him to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on email@example.com, www.velindaba.com and 083 304 9773