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What Makes You Unique?

“Comparison is the act of violence against the self.” – Iyanla Vanzant.

One of the most difficult exams in life, is knowing yourself. The major reason most people fail this exam is because they try to copy others, not realising that everyone has a different question paper. So, copying others is denying your own thoughts, ideas, beautiful and unique expressions to come out because of wanting to appear correct and relevant.

Your main fear shouldn’t be that your life will come to an end but that, it will never have a beginning! That’s what should give you nightmares. That your ideas and thoughts will remain trapped and imprisoned within you until the end of time. So, what makes you different? What makes you unique? A rose can never be a sunflower as much as a sunflower can never be a rose but all flowers are beautiful in their own special way.

Everyone in the world is screaming about stopping the abuse and violence against others whereas abuse and violence against the self are the major culprits that should be dealt with in a big way. Self-knowledge is not part of the school curriculum but should appear on top of ‘your own personal curriculum’. Self-knowledge comes with a certain level of acceptance and helps you recognise when a phase, job, a life stage, or a relationship is over and let it go. It helps you allow yourself to gracefully exit situations you’ve outgrown. Moving on shouldn’t be a catastrophic event. When you know yourself better, you can simply choose to move forward with peace and clarity. What makes life interesting is uniqueness, not sameness.

Apart from the school or imposed syllabus, what does your own personal syllabus/curriculum look like? Do you have any? I am talking about those things that you have to learn about yourself, especially those that make you unique.

I, Veli Ndaba – ‘The Engineered Mind – to WIN’, was born to inspire and empower you to have clarity and discover your purpose in order to become the best version of yourself. What is your purpose?

Veli Ndaba is an Insightful Speaker, Life-Coach and Neuro- Linguistic Programming Practitioner, Author of three books (You Are Born to Win, Your Dream is Calling You and SWITCH ON!), Newspaper Columnist and Entrepreneur. To book him to help you and your team unleash your greatness, contact him on, and 083 304 9773